This is the single best piece of advice I could give. Get motivation to lose weight. I’ve worked with thousands of people with different health goals. There is a subgroup of people who I can almost guarantee will be successful and I can always spot them right away.
When it comes to losing weight, usually this is something pretty painful. I’ve seen it come out during a major life change like a divorce. I’ve seen people get serious medical conditions and instead of being rocked with shame, show pure, cold determination. It’s the point where people are ready to say screw it all, no matter what, I’m going to make this work.
This group believes in the deepest parts of their soul that they deserve a fighting chance at this. They don’t care about what anyone else thinks, for them it’s time to get past the weight and move onto the next stage of their life.
What do they look like? Usually intense, pained, and driven. They aren’t the happy, bouncy people you see in the gym. Generally, feeling happy comes later, after they are hurtling towards their goals. They also aren’t looking meek or shameful; a look I see far too often on people’s faces. They are defeated before they even start.
At this point the driven are staring straight in the face of their fears and determined to go after them. We all know this look, it’s in you when you fight to the end for something you need, your kids need, and you can’t imagine going without.
The person I think of first when this topic comes up was a retired Marine who found himself with kidney and heart failure from a lifetime of fun living. The doctors could fix his heart, but he had to seriously change his diet to avoid relying on machines to keep him alive. Not everyone gets the chance to turn back the clock in this situation, but he did.
When he and his wife came in it was clear he was going to do everything in his power to fix this no matter what. He was not shameful or looking defeated. He was cold, determined, and had the energy that just makes you not want to be someone standing in his way. Luckily, with a map to help him find his way out, I was an ally.
He listened to most of it, and told me to give the lists of foods to his wife. He told me that he didn’t care if he liked things or not. He didn’t care what he had to give up. He was going to fix this. And he did. End of story.
So what is different between him and the person who starts yet another diet? Who is tempted tremendously by the foods they are working to get rid of? Maybe with no idea how to get motivation to lose weight. Are the rest of us just going to live our lives never reaching our goals?
No. He is like us and we all have that same fight inside of us. Food unrelated, but along the same lines, I remember having my second child. The labor suddenly advanced much faster than I thought possible. I couldn’t walk and my phone was in the back bedroom. I realized in terror I may end up giving birth on the floor alone. Suddenly, there was the fighting anger. It didn’t make my body able to walk but I crawled to the phone and got help in time.
I remember when I got fed up with being overweight and out of shape. It was Halloween and I was still a student. I was under a ton of pressure from school, from work, and from my relationship. As a whole, I wasn’t happy with where I was. I looked at the bowl of leftover Halloween candy and instead of craving it, the candy caused my blood to boil. I immediately took all of it out to the dumpster.
The next day I started walking/jogging. First one block, then two. I decided to cut my portions in half, got through all my assignments and ended the relationship I was in. Basically, I cleaned up my life. About six months or so later I was running four to seven miles, five to six days a week. The extra weight was gone and I had fallen in love with running and weight training.
I wish I could give you this feeling of motivation. I have tons of stories of people I’ve watched go through this. One when he found out he had diabetes. Another when she ended a bad marriage. Another when she graduated college. And on and on.
All of us have these stories. Do you feel that right now? If not, can you think back to a time when you felt that fight? Where it came from? What drove it? Can you pull those feelings from the past and apply them to your health goal now?
Get motivation to lose weight. The changes you make provide the way out and the foods you are avoiding are a trap to keep you there. Find and channel that fight and motivation — you will become unstoppable.